Look. I think we’ve all got a bit lost. In a world of influencer morning routines, micro celebs selling face oils and the next green powder, reels of beautiful people using the latest facial gadget with perfect skin, sipping strawberry matchas - it’s easy to mistake the performance of wellness for the actual experience of it.

I want to ask you something I’ve been asking myself lately:

How much of your routine is performative?
And how much is actually helping you?

Really think about that.

Because it’s one thing to take care of yourself. It’s another thing entirely to curate your self-care into something that looks good on the outside, while you quietly feel stressed, rigid, resentful or overwhelmed on the inside.

Like. I get it. It’s really hard to not press BUY NOW on the next shiny thing, with beautiful branding being sold to us by gorgeous people. But we really need to start becoming aware of what it is doing to us on a deep emotional and spiritual level.

BE HONEST

Do you…

Approach your daily routines and rituals like a checklist?
Force yourself to go to a fitness class knowing deep down you really need to rest, but go because if you don’t you’ll feel guilty?
Eat light and ‘healthy’ even when your body’s asking for something heartier, heavier or just different?
Obsess over supplements but don’t actually know what they do?
Feel like if you don’t do the meditation, or the morning walk, or the scraping and stretching and hydrating… you’re somehow failing?

I say this with deep love: You’re not failing. You’re just caught in a performance loop.

And it’s time to come back to what actually feels real and supportive for you.

Ayurveda Isn’t another FAD

So many of my clients see Ayurveda as another thing to perfect, to better themselves with, to add in to improve their lives. And whilst yes, these practices can totally transform your life for the better, it is all about the approach. Control, force, drive, pushing, accumulation when so many of us are already at capacity is only going to push us further into Vata Pitta imbalances.

Most of our modern ailments actually come from stress; from doing too much, juggling all the plates, avoiding rest and moving further and further away from our natural rhythms seeking balance.

I don’t care if your tongue scraper is copper, if it’s plastic, or if you don’t have time each morning to even do it
I’m not overjoyed that you wake up at 4am to meditate when at 3pm you’re falling asleep at your desk unable to focus
I’m not disappointed if you only have time to grab a ready to go sandwich on your lunch break.

You need to make it work for you too.

INSTEAD:

I care about how you feel.
I care how you digest life, how much enjoyment and pleasure you get
I want to know what rituals are boosting you, and what are stressing you the F out.
I want to know how Ayurveda can help you in a sustainable way for the long term, not just based on the latest trend.

Ayurveda isn’t a vibe. It’s not an aesthetic. It’s a relationship. A support system. A rhythm you can return to when the world feels too loud.

It’s not another way to judge yourself.

Wellness Shouldn’t Be Punishment in Disguise

If your practices are making you feel restricted, guilty, ashamed, obsessive or burnt out they are no longer wellness tools.

They are weapons.

And the whole point of Ayurveda, of seasonal living, of slowing down… is to nourish your life. Not perform it.

So, What’s Actually Working?

Here’s your gentle homework:

Make a list of every wellness thing you ‘do.’ Every supplement you take. Every food you’ve restricted. Every full throttle fitness class you sign up to, every yoga class for that matter..
Put a star next to the ones that actually help you feel better.
Cross out the ones you’re doing for aesthetics, identity or that wipe you out leaving you with zero energy for the rest of the day.
Give yourself permission to take a break from what’s not working. Revisit it later if you want. Or don’t.

Come Back to What’s Real

Maybe wellness looks like waking up slowly and drinking warm water.

Maybe it looks like crying in the shower, eating pizza and binge watching FRIENDS.

Maybe it looks like quitting the fancy protocol and just laying on your sofa cushions in your garden.

Wellness is how you live. How you treat yourself. Not how you look doing it or cos everyone else is.

LOOK AFTER YOURSELF.

P.S.

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